It was a particularly sad moment during the pro-abortion conference organized by a group of MEPs at the premises of the European Parliament earlier this month. Viviane Teitelbaum, the president of the radical-feminist “European Women’s Lobby” (EWL, which holds itself out as the voice of all European women, but which is in fact one of the fake NGOs that nearly entirely depend on funding from the European Commission…) asked the MEPs present to explain their personal motivations for organizing this event or, more generally, for being pro-abortion. One of the female MEPs replied by saying that when she needed an abortion, she was glad that in her country it was freely available, without any questions asked or judgments made, and she wanted this to be the case for all other women.
Clearly, she was not speaking of a theoretical or hypothetical situation, but about something that really has occurred in her life and that, as it appears, has transformed her to become the person she is today: a radical and embittered promoter of abortion. Not only of abortion, but of the entire Culture of Death that comes with it: euthanasia, the sacralisation of homosexual relationships, the re-definition (and ultimately destruction) of marriage and family and, last but not least, the aggressive hatred against religion, and in particular the Catholic Church.
I never met her personally, and I know one should be careful with making a diagnosis from the distance. But it does seem to me that precisely her bitterness and radicalism show that, deep inside her soul, her conscience is still alive and leaves her no rest. She has not just had an abortion and then continued her life as if nothing had happened. She is perfectly aware that what she has done was not right, and that whatever reasons she may have had to justify her decision before herself, those reasons were insufficient. She has had her own child killed – a child that could now be a teenager. Maybe at times she is wondering or imagining what that teenager would be like: a boy or a girl? With a freckled nose and curly hairs? Interested in music or literature? What kind of personality would that child be, what would be the sound of its voice – and what kind of questions would it ask its mother?
Maybe she regrets her loss, and maybe she hates herself for it. Maybe this is the reason why the idea of people who understand marriage as a life-long union between one man and one woman and who live a happy family life provokes such aggression in her. Seeing a happy mother with a child makes her angry. Given that her own decision was to have an abortion, that decision must now be justified and defended at all costs: it was right to have an abortion, it is every woman’s right to have as many abortions as she wants, and it is therefore wrong to oppose abortions. Psychologists have a name for this: they call it the avoidance of cognitive dissonance.
An American friend once told me that social researchers in the US have found out that once a woman has had an abortion she can be expected to cast her vote for the Democrats for the rest of her life. In other words, abortion is the initiation rite for a particular world-view, and the fact that this initiation rite involves the shedding of innocent blood makes it particularly difficult for the initiates to re-consider and recant: it would imply the unwelcome insight to be guilty not of a heroic deed of self-liberation, but of a terrible crime.
Maybe that is also the reason why this MEP (like all pro-abortion politicians) is such a keen promoter of the early sexualisation of school children through so-called “sexual education” programmes: they are part of the initiation process, so it is convenient to make them compulsory. Children are told that extra-marital sex is perfectly normal and ok for them, and that they should engage in it as soon as they have reached puberty – after all, unwanted pregnancies can nowadays easily be avoided through the use of condoms and medical contraceptives. Of course, this attitude will not lead to less, but to more, unplanned pregnancies. But that precisely appears to be part of the strategy – because once the teenage girl is pregnant, she is ripe for the second step of the initiation (and recruitment) process: abortion. And once she has had an abortion, she will feel the need to justify it before herself and the rest of the world: she will therefore for the rest of her life vote for parties that support “abortion rights”.
Who knows – maybe that is exactly how the woman I am writing about fell into the abortion trap and became the personality she is now. Certainly she did not plan to have an abortion before she was pregnant. And certainly she did not plan to be pregnant and then have an abortion before engaging in her first sexual activities. And who knows how many women like this there are out there in the European Parliament…
It is difficult to get out of this vicious circle, but it is possible. As Christians we should be aware that there is no deed that cannot be forgiven, and that it is always possible to repent and convert. Though at times we might feel tempted to hate and disdain persons who promote and justify the butchering of unborn children just as much as they hate and disdain us, we should never give in to such temptations. And while we should never hesitate to denounce the abominable practice of abortion, we should never pass any personal judgment on any person committing or promoting it. Instead, pray and fast for repentance and conversion – the upcoming Lenten time provides a good occasion for it.